Avoid the hidden trap of rewards and raise confident, self-motivated kids with revolutionary, science-based parenting strategies from international sensation Dr. Özgür Bolat—featuring a foreword by Nobel Laureate Aziz Sancar.
Every loving parent uses rewards—gold stars, treats, praise, privileges—believing they're nurturing their child's motivation and self-esteem. But what if seven decades of scientific research reveal we're doing the exact opposite? What if the rewards we depend on are creating power struggles, screen dependence, and children who act only when there is something to gain?
Drawing on groundbreaking research and real-life cases, The Reward Trap explores the hidden psychological cost of rewards and how parents can avoid the pitfalls of external validation on the road to internal motivation. With expert strategies from award-winning researcher Dr. Özgür Bolat—proven to work at home, not just in a lab—this is the connection-based alternative you've been looking for.
Free from the hidden trap of rewards, you will raise children who
- take initiative—from homework to daily responsibilities—without being asked, reminded, or pressured;
- stay engaged and persist through challenges, even when there's no reward or recognition; and
- make good choices because they believe in them, not because they're told to.
No more battles over motivation. No more anxiety about whether you're doing enough. Just genuine connection and a confident, emotionally secure child who is motivated from within. It's the kind of inner happiness no reward can buy.
Praise
“Dr. Özgür Bolat brings intellectual rigor and uncommon clarity to one of the most important questions in parenting and education: how do we truly motivate children?”
—Prof. Aziz Sancar, MD, PhD, Nobel Laureate in Chemistry
“Drawing on decades of research, including his own empirical studies, he shows how rewards can unintentionally push children toward pressure and approval-seeking rather than a genuine love of learning.”
—Prof. Andrew J. Elliot, Department of Psychology, University of Rochester
“This eye-opening and important book shows what really leads to greater creativity and well-being.”
—Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, Psychologist
“This book is a compelling read. An accessible book that provides such persuasive and convincing arguments for supporting autonomy and intrinsic motivation gets my vote.”
—Dr. David Frost, Faculty of Education, University of Cambridge
“Özgür masterfully bridges psychological and educational research with everyday parenting, revealing why rewards often undermine the very motivation they seek to build.”
—Prof. Mehmet Toner, Harvard Medical School & MIT
