Stop waiting for luck and start building a skill. From the "scientific Carrie Bradshaw" and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp comes a revolutionary, psychology-based roadmap to ending dating frustration and finding a partnership that actually sticks.
If you feel like you're stuck in a loop of "Groundhog Day" dates, stalled situationships, or "spark" that leads nowhere, you don't need more apps—you need a better system.
Relationship expert Amy Chan has helped thousands of singles transform their love lives by identifying one hard truth: Most people aren't failing at love because of their personality; they're failing because they're stuck in outdated patterns.
In Unsingle, Chan introduces the Dating Funnel framework—a step-by-step strategy that pinpoints exactly where you are getting stuck and how to fix it. Blending neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and her signature "Chief Heart Hacker" wit, Chan provides the tools to move from casual chemistry to committed compatibility.
Inside, you'll discover:
- The Dating Funnel: A practical system to filter for quality matches and go from "situationship" to serious partnership.
- Chemistry vs. Compatibility: Why "instant sparks" are often red flags and how to look for the traits that actually predict a healthy, lasting future.
- Pattern Interruption: How to identify the subconscious attachment styles and emotional blocks that keep you dating the same (wrong) person.
- The "Character Game": Why dating is a personality game, but maintaining a relationship is a character game—and how to master both.
Whether you are healing from a past breakup or ready to navigate the modern dating world with fresh eyes, Unsingle is your wake-up call. It's time to stop settling for romantic chaos and start building the love you truly deserve.
"Amy Chan gets it. She cuts through the nonsense and gives you the real talk about love.If you want to stop dating like you're stuck in Groundhog Day, read this book." —John Kim, LMFT, author of The Angry Therapist
Praise
Unsingle is a guide to the kind of self-healing that makes healthy love possible. If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting, this book is for you.
—JILLIAN TURECKI, New York Times bestselling author of It Begins with You and host of the Jillian on
This isn't your typical dating advice—it's a psychology-based road map to becoming the kind of person capable of thriving relationships.
—DR. SCOTT BARRY KAUFMAN, author of Rise Above and Transcend
Unsingle is the love manual every smart single needs. If you're done wasting time on dead-end situationships and want to find real love, this is your wake-up call.
—PATTI STANGER, the Millionaire Matchmaker and founder of Millionaire's Club International
Amy Chan gets it. She cuts through all the dating nonsense and gives you the real talk about love. If you want to stop dating like you're stuck in Groundhog Day, read this book
—JOHN KIM, LMFT, "The Angry Therapist" and author of I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck
Amy Chan has written a clear-eyed guide to breaking free from the unconscious patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of romantic chaos. This book is for anyone ready to stop repeating their past and start building the love they truly deserve.
—DR. SCOTT LYONS, founder of the Embody Lab and author of Addicted to Drama
Amy Chan exposes the psychological forces that make us unwittingly sabotage our chances of finding love and that trap us in destructive relationship patterns once we do—and most importantly, she shows us how to escape them. Unsingle is chock full of insights, assessments, and practical tools you can use to understand the obstacles that have stood in your way so that you can sidestep them and create the lasting relationship you deserve.
—GUY WINCH, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid and How to Fix a Broken Heart
Amy Chan has a gift for making complicated relationship patterns easy to understand. Unsingle shows you why we keep repeating the same mistakes and how to finally break the cycle. With relatable stories and research-backed insights, it's a practical and encouraging guide that helps you make better choices and feel more hopeful about love.
—TY TASHIRO, PhD, psychologist and author of The Science of Happily Ever After
Unsingle is the book I wish more people had in their hands before giving up on dating—or on themselves. Amy Chan offers us clear, compassionate guidance and a fresh approach to dating & relationships that feels both deeply practical and deeply human. This book is a roadmap to navigating the dating world with awareness, curiosity, and self-compassion.
—JESS JANZ, author of The Table Where We Meet
