A fun, science-backed dating guide that interrupts the relationship patterns keeping love just out of reach—and empowers readers with the dating tools to build lasting, healthy connections.
Dubbed the "scientific Carrie Bradshaw" by The Observer, relationship expert Amy Chan has helped thousands of singles transform their love lives through her world-renowned Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamps. What she's discovered is surprising: Most single people aren't failing at love because they need years of therapy or a complete personality overhaul.
They're stuck in outdated dating patterns—and once those patterns are identified and interrupted, everything changes.
In this groundbreaking guide, Chan introduces the Dating Funnel framework, a step-by-step dating strategy that pinpoints exactly where people are getting stuck and why Whether it's struggling to meet quality matches, feeling frustrated by stalled face-to-face dating connections, or getting caught in situationship purgatory, Unsingle offers a practical roadmap to update dating skills and heal the deeper wounds that block connection.
Chan's approach is refreshingly honest and often hilarious: Sometimes the common denominator in all those dating disasters isn't bad luck—it's a pattern. She's here to lovingly call it out and teach exactly how to shift it.
Backed by cutting-edge research, real client transformations, and her signature blend of tough love and genuine warmth, Unsingle proves that creating lasting love isn't about luck—it's about skill.
Praise
Unsingle is a guide to the kind of self-healing that makes healthy love possible. If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting, this book is for you.
—JILLIAN TURECKI, New York Times bestselling author of It Begins with You and host of the Jillian on
This isn't your typical dating advice—it's a psychology-based road map to becoming the kind of person capable of thriving relationships.
—DR. SCOTT BARRY KAUFMAN, author of Rise Above and Transcend
Unsingle is the love manual every smart single needs. If you're done wasting time on dead-end situationships and want to find real love, this is your wake-up call.
—PATTI STANGER, the Millionaire Matchmaker and founder of Millionaire's Club International
Amy Chan gets it. She cuts through all the dating nonsense and gives you the real talk about love. If you want to stop dating like you're stuck in Groundhog Day, read this book
—JOHN KIM, LMFT, "The Angry Therapist" and author of I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck
Amy Chan has written a clear-eyed guide to breaking free from the unconscious patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of romantic chaos. This book is for anyone ready to stop repeating their past and start building the love they truly deserve.
—DR. SCOTT LYONS, founder of the Embody Lab and author of Addicted to Drama
Amy Chan exposes the psychological forces that make us unwittingly sabotage our chances of finding love and that trap us in destructive relationship patterns once we do—and most importantly, she shows us how to escape them. Unsingle is chock full of insights, assessments, and practical tools you can use to understand the obstacles that have stood in your way so that you can sidestep them and create the lasting relationship you deserve.
—GUY WINCH, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid and How to Fix a Broken Heart
Amy Chan has a gift for making complicated relationship patterns easy to understand. Unsingle shows you why we keep repeating the same mistakes and how to finally break the cycle. With relatable stories and research-backed insights, it's a practical and encouraging guide that helps you make better choices and feel more hopeful about love.
—TY TASHIRO, PhD, psychologist and author of The Science of Happily Ever After
